The core of any process in guided change can be summarised with two questions:
1. What are you here for in this life? 2. What keeps you from doing that?
Gerald, a 40-year old senior consultant, told me he was here on this earth to practice being lively and to explore complexity and non-duality, to find a way beyond the polarities of good and bad, right and wrong. His three P's were Perceptions, Paradigms and Perspectives. He was experiencing difficulty at work and in achieving professional success, and in his personal life, he had a hard time learning to trust people. Another repetitive pattern of his was an ongoing internal struggle whether to take a project on himself or share the labour and the glory by working on it with others. In the process of working in the group, Gerald discovered that his concept of 'work' was in fact an introject from his mother.
It was connected to beliefs about life, like: Work means living up to the expectations of others and involved the pressure to keep up with the Joneses, e.g. by driving a great car. From his father he had absorbed the message that it was okay to do what he wanted, but when under stress mom's directives became dominant. Then we had a discussion about the word 'success'. That word is very popular, and in general, success is considered as something attractive and worth striving for. At a closer look, however, the concept might stand in the way of your own development because people tend to depend on the positive judgement of others to feel successful.
The value and importance of both 'work' and 'success' depend on external criteria. They create a lot of clutter in your energy system and may distract you from your own, deeply personal mission in life.